The basic ground of compassionate action is the importance of working with rather than strugglingagainst, and what I mean by that is working with your own unwanted, unacceptable stuff, so that when the unacceptable and unwanted appears outthere, you relate to it based on having worked with loving-kindness for yourself. Then there is no condescension. This nondualistic approach is true to the heart because it’s based on our kinship with each other. We know what to say, because we have experienced closing down, shutting off, being angry, hurt, rebellious, and so forth, and have made a relationship with those things in ourselves.
Pema Chodron
