Virtuous behavior is not about doing "good" because we feel we're "bad" and need to shape up. Instead of guilt or dogma, how we choose to act can be guided by wisdom and kindness. Seen in this light, our question then boils down to "What awakens my heart, and what blocks that process from happening?"
Excerpted from: Welcoming the Unwelcome Wholehearted Living in a Brokenhearted World by Pema Chödrön page 13