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How to Find Happiness

How to Find Happiness

We are traveling at the ‘Speed of Life’ which seems to be getting faster and faster. This reminds me of the speed limits that continue to increase from 55mph years ago to 80 mph on the highway now in some states! Wow. I find that when I travel faster on the highway to life, I do not enjoy it and many things are not done well.

I go to work, meetings, grocery shop, cook meals and attend to everyone else’s needs first. Sound familiar?

I feel stuck and I am unhappy. I hear this over and over again from my clients who don’t take care of themselves first. Then their energy currency runs out! So here are a few tips you can do each day to live a happier life and have more energy to give to yourself and your relationships!

1. Follow your heart. What do you love to do? If you love to spend time with friends then invite them over or go out to eat together. I love to garden, walk and play with my dog, hike in nature, and eat dinner with friends.

Implement one thing each day that you love to do even if it is only 15 minutes. Do what you really love and have fun!

2. Do one thing every day that scares you. This does not mean watch horror movies or sky dive today. Too often we get “comfortable” and complacent in life which leads to a mediocre life.

Spice it up. If you have never gone out to dinner by yourself, treat yourself. Take a trip on your own.

Smile at strangers and meet new people and strike up a conversation. Go ahead and talk to that cute guy you have wanted to get to know. Take up dancing.

Get out of your comfort zone! You will be amazed at how much confidence you will gain and how good you feel.

3. Focus on what you want. Too often we get caught up in focusing on “what is bad”. Do you watch the news every night and morning? Most of it is focused on the negative. What music do you listen to or what tv shows do you watch?


Most importantly, are the top 5 people you hang with positive or negative? Do they really support you?

There is a saying that “Energy Goes where Attention Goes “. Place your Attention on the positive and what you want in life!

4. Let go of the attachment to the Expectations and the Outcome. When we have expectations, we set ourselves up for disappointments. Have you ever noticed that many things don’t go the way you expected? This is really bad when you have expectations in a relationship that you and your partner have never talked about!

Expectations come from our judgments, which come from our thoughts.

Wayne Dyer said, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”. Look at things differently by releasing the fear and looking for love.

Realize that you have no control over external situations or people.

You can only control how you react. Happiness is a choice! Choose it.

  • Written by
    Lauren Ebbecke
    Extraordinary Wellness Shaman (healer and coach)
Paul on Google+ August 31, 2014