"I don't have enough time!"
"I'm running late!"
"Don't waste my time."
"I am short on time."
"I'll never get that time back."
"Where did the time go?"
Right now I am holding my breath. Those sentences are part of the script that runs through my mind on a daily basis. Can you tell I have a scarcity-of-time mindset?
Every time I tell myself that I have a shortage of time or that I'm running behind or that there is NO time, my breathing stops, my stomach constricts, my shoulders rise and my eyes squeeze tight. My physical body reacts to my belief about time. This then shapes me emotionally into a series of negative energetic states: aggravation, anger, anxiety, fear, worry. These emotions influence how I view my circumstances, possibilities and future which also dictates my actions. (Consequently, it doesn't make for a patient and loving parent or spouse.)
What's this whole mess based on? Lack. And the result? More lack.
I start from lack and I end with lack. I create my own reality.
Around the hamster wheel I go if I don't pay attention.
Can you relate?
Fortunately, I woke up.
What I do from here is a game changer. I choose to dramatically shift my old assumptions and fears around time. When I do that, everything changes!
I'm not pretending that there isn't a limit to resources. But to fixate on scarcity is a mind-set. It's a lie. It cuts me off from life.
There is enough time. I get to declare what is enough time. When I rest in knowing that the fundamental law of nature is the law of enough, my body relaxes. In nature, there is just enough and no more. It is finite. Yet knowing that it's finite in this way poses no threat, no fear.
When I look at time from this context, I experience it as a precious resource. Something to value and approach with intention. Even though it is limited, I don't perceive it as constricting. Instead, I surprisingly feel free. My body responds in kind.
My breathing has now shifted. It is deep and full. Tension is released from my stomach, shoulders and eyes. A flow of energy moves freely throughout my body. A positive mood and outlook inhabits my soma and my horizon of possibilities widens and expands.
I realize that I always manage to get the most important things done when they need to be done. The time is made and set aside for priorities and pressing matters. My children get to school on time. The spreadsheet makes it to the school board. The proposal gets presented. I write this blog post in March!
My new mantra:
"I have enough time. In fact, everything that happens does so exactly when it is supposed to. And I am eternally grateful for that."
Here's to trusting in the law of enough,
Lora Cecca Lyons coaches hopelessly busy moms.
As an entrepreneur and mom, she has first-hand experience of how easy it is to lose oneself inside the demands of a family. Her ground-breaking Mother's Balancing Act coaching program is based on her journey to regain her sense of calm and stay connected to herself, her husband and her children. Lora wants you to be the calm inside the chaos, and shares her unique and effective techniques through email newsletters, tele-seminars and 1-on-1 and group coaching.
She holds a master's degree in communications management, a certification as a somatic coach and is a fourth-degree black belt in Kenpo Karate. You can sign up for her twice monthly "Being the Calm Inside the Chaos" email newsletter at http://LyonsLeadershipCoaching.com.
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